We think it is important not to ask too many questions that the guy would have heard before. Remember, people judge you by the questions you ask, not just the answers you give, so having some great questions to ask a guy will go a long way. These 20 questions to ask a guy will help keep the conversation more interesting and help build rapport. Consider it your cheat sheet!
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These 20 questions to ask a guy are questions for getting to know him better, be it on a first date, or at a social gathering or similar. You might not get the chance to ask every question, and you might want to change the order around to suit you.
20 Questions to Ask a Guy
1. Do you have a favorite movie?
One of us used to get asked What is your favorite movie? a lot, and sometimes felt embarrassed admitting that he didnt have one. Changing the questions a little to Do you have.. takes the pressure off, but allows the guy to tell you about his favorite movie if he has one.
2. Do you have a favorite author?
Same as the above but for further insight.
3. Do you have any pets?
This one is obviously not particularly original and thats fine, it gives him an opportunity to talk about his pets if he has them, and if not, you can quickly move onto another question. Guys like being given the opportunity to talk about their things and what they like without sounding like they are bragging, so pets are always good for that.
4. How often do you go out? Where do you like to go?
This is obviously good for finding out what sort of person he is, but it also gives an opportunity for you two to build rapport or find something in common, he will most likely ask you the same question, so it can be quite a long talking point.
5. Spotlight, Audience, Or Backstage?
As well as giving insight into his character, this makes for a slightly more interesting question that he might not have heard recently.
6. Beach Or Mountain?
Maybe you can plan your first outing together, or maybe just add a little fun to the conversation by add some quickfire A or B questions.
7. Weirdest Christmas Gift Ever?
Of course, being reminded of past Christmases and childhood helps to bring emotions into the conversation and build rapport, as well as making for some interesting conversation.
8. What is the craziest thing you have ever done?
You might want to wait until more of a connection between the two of you is made, then again, this question could be the one to move you into more intimate conversation. It isnt unreasonable to be asked this question, but be prepared to answer it yourself!
9. Tell me a funny childhood story
Humor and memories are a good combination and getting him to open up about some funny things in his past is a good way to make you both feel relaxed.
10. If you could kill five people in the world, who would they be?
Questions like this are lighthearted and allow for a lot of follow-up conversation, as long as you arent one of the five people he mentions.
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11. What did you want to be when you were 10?
You could choose any age really, but most people wanted to be something outrageous at that age, so it should make things more interesting, without bringing his possible regret at not achieving his dreams into the equation.
12. What was your favorite Halloween costume and why?
No real reason behind this question, it is just fun.
13. If you could have dinner with any three people from any time, fictional or non-fictional, who would they be and why?
Similar to the five people you would kill question, it can set up for nice follow-on conversation and is also insightful into a persons character.
14. What made you laugh the hardest in your entire life?
Laughter and memories are good remember?
15. If you were a waiter and a couple were being rude would you spit on their food?
This one is obviously just a bit of fun (maybe) but can be quite topical if you are in a restaurant at the time. Give the waiter suspicious looks to add to that in-joke dynamic.
16. Whats the worst lie you ever told? Did you get caught?
Of course you might not get told the worst lie, but it adds more rapport and connection to the conversation.
17. Do you have any talents?
Everyone is good at something, you never know what it is unless you ask. This can also build trust quite well.
18. Whats the one skill/thing you would learn, if you could?
Ambition, dreams, people like being asked about them without having to bring the conversation up themselves.
19. If you could wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be?
This is a personal favorite of mine because you can learn a lot about somebody from their answer, it is also a nice fun question!
20. What do you want out of life?
This one could be quite general and some people might not know how to, or want to, answer, but I put it out there as it can be very insightful and help develop trust.
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